Why You Might Miss Your Commute–and How to Replicate its Benefits at Home

According to "boundary theory," a daily commute gives us time to do the emotional work of switching roles and establishing a separation between work and home life.

2 minute read

June 24, 2021, 9:00 AM PDT

By Diana Ionescu @aworkoffiction


Commuter Traffic

stockfotoart / Shutterstock

After a year of working from home, writes Jerry Unseem in The Atlantic, "[m]any people liberated from the commute have experienced a void they can’t quite name." Without the daily trip to and from work, "[t]here are no beginnings or endings. The hero’s journey never happens. The threshold goes uncrossed." Useem questions what role the commute plays beyond getting people to and from work.

"In 1994, an Italian physicist named Cesare Marchetti noted that throughout history, humans have shown a willingness to spend roughly 60 minutes a day in transit," a constant that has held true, for the working class as well as the wealthiest industrialists. Today, the average American one-way commute clocks in at 27 minutes.

Participants in a UC Davis study gave a number of reasons for wanting a short–but not non-existent–commute: "the feeling of control in one’s own car; the time to plan, to decompress, to make calls, to listen to audiobooks." According to Gail Sheehy and a body of research known as boundary theory, "[y]ou get a very strong feeling of two lives with the train a bridge." The commute "is actually a relatively efficient way of simultaneously facilitating a physical and psychological shift between roles."  

Useem recommends a set of habits that can help us set boundaries when working from home. Clothing, he writes, can make a big difference in your focus. "In office attire, you can’t take out the trash or water the lawn without a strong feeling that you ought to be doing something else. Like your job." He cites other examples from corporate-ritual designer Ezra Bookman, such as "lighting variations, warm-up stretches, cellphone-free walks, and, as he demonstrated to me over Zoom, shrouding your computer in a fine blue cloth when you log off, as if it, too, needs a good night’s sleep."

Ultimately, Useem says, creating new rituals can help you "replicate what the commute did for you"–the benefits we didn't appreciate until they were gone.

Wednesday, June 9, 2021 in The Atlantic

portrait of professional woman

I love the variety of courses, many practical, and all richly illustrated. They have inspired many ideas that I've applied in practice, and in my own teaching. Mary G., Urban Planner

I love the variety of courses, many practical, and all richly illustrated. They have inspired many ideas that I've applied in practice, and in my own teaching.

Mary G., Urban Planner

Cover CM Credits, Earn Certificates, Push Your Career Forward

Logo for Planetizen Federal Action Tracker with black and white image of U.S. Capitol with water ripple overlay.

Planetizen Federal Action Tracker

A weekly monitor of how Trump’s orders and actions are impacting planners and planning in America.

June 11, 2025 - Diana Ionescu

Metrorail train pulling into newly opened subterranean station in Washington, D.C. with crowd on platform taking photos.

Congressman Proposes Bill to Rename DC Metro “Trump Train”

The Make Autorail Great Again Act would withhold federal funding to the system until the Washington Metropolitan Area Transit Authority (WMATA), rebrands as the Washington Metropolitan Authority for Greater Access (WMAGA).

June 2, 2025 - The Hill

Large crowd on street in San Francisco, California during Oktoberfest festival.

The Simple Legislative Tool Transforming Vacant Downtowns

In California, Michigan and Georgia, an easy win is bringing dollars — and delight — back to city centers.

June 2, 2025 - Robbie Silver

Color-coded map of labor & delivery departments and losses in United States.

The States Losing Rural Delivery Rooms at an Alarming Pace

In some states, as few as 9% of rural hospitals still deliver babies. As a result, rising pre-term births, no adequate pre-term care and harrowing close calls are a growing reality.

3 hours ago - Maine Morning Star

Street scene in Kathmandu, Nepal with yellow minibuses and other traffic.

The Small South Asian Republic Going all in on EVs

Thanks to one simple policy change less than five years ago, 65% of new cars in this Himalayan country are now electric.

5 hours ago - Fast Company

Bike lane in Washington D.C. protected by low concrete barriers.

DC Backpedals on Bike Lane Protection, Swaps Barriers for Paint

Citing aesthetic concerns, the city is removing the concrete barriers and flexposts that once separated Arizona Avenue cyclists from motor vehicles.

7 hours ago - The Washington Post